The Wisdom Track Podcast
Better loving for Heterosexual Men
Some weeks ago I had the privilege to discuss the book with anger guru Mike Fisher and Snake Bloomstrand from the British Association of Anger Management.
Mike and Snake were pioneers in Men consciousness work back in the 80’s and 90’s and now assist men and women around the planet through their impactful and powerful work.
What a rich conversation we had!
With so many years of Men’s awareness work and facilitation amongst us all and the privilege of working with thousands of men around the planet, we took a deep dive into some of the disappeared conversations about the heterosexual man and men and women’s current longing for an upleveled expression of relating and loving.
One man – One woman one relationship at a time.
Comments
I found this podcast super interesting as one rarely hears much about male sexuality (besides sensational articles in the Cosmo and GQ magazine).
And what I liked most was that you have proudly written a book about “heterosexual” male sexuality as it is not that PC these days to say that you are a heterosexual male because you don’t want to offend women and same sex relations (or trans) etc etc!
Thanks for your instrumental part in bringing heterosexual male sexuality out of the forgotten shadows and proudly into the light it deserves. I am looking forward to other podcasts and articles about your book. Well done!
👏👏🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Dr Marelize Swart, Psychologist & AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (Diplomate)
Superb sharing Paul!!
Such a beautiful blend of intellectualizing the subject of being hetero normative (and male) …with how to ‘live’ and ‘embody’ a new/ more woke- to- self and conscious way of inhabiting maleness..
I particularly liked the invitation to curiosity rather than adversity …and I believe that a follow on conversation would be most powerful if had with a woman in the field of sexology..
This conversation opener that you offer feels way overdue, and yet , also way ahead of this moment ‘right now’ .BUT, as a firm believer in the appropriate conversations arriving in perfect timing , I feel that there is something quite pivotal in the timing of right now !! There is so much Saturation …especially after the pandemic porn binge …and a boring narrative around sex… a perfect time to talk !!
It is invaluable guidance you offer for all couples work and I experience this, with so much gratitude, first hand ,in my practice – and daily!
Bringing all of the info you share so beautifully into practical ways of upskilling behaviours really does make it feel as if you have birthed a masterpiece!
Dr Andrea Phillips – Seidel
Well done Paul. Having listened to the podcast and gaining some insight into the matter on hand has opened a dialogue with my younger self as well as my partner on his experience of growing up with a somewhat overloaded amount of hormones.
What I grew up with and ‘accepted’ from the opposite sex, is definitely no longer acceptable in the world we live in today. A considerable amount of psychological harm was caused.
Interesting that most of these men in my age group (middle aged and upwards) still remain ‘stuck’ in their hormone based adolescent reactive behaviour and continue to circulate disrespectable comments, sexist jokes etc amongst themselves, while postmenopausal women grow stronger in their own power and any hurt that they may still have turns to pity for those still ‘stuck’. Sad, as we ‘miss’ each other….
So definitely time to ‘talk’.
Bridget
The Wisdom Track Podcast
Better loving for Heterosexual Men
In an essential discussion for men seeking deeper connection and self-awareness, BAAM ( British Association of Anger Management ) co-founder Mike Fisher and Craig ‘Snake’ Bloomstrand welcomed author Dr. Paul Abramowitz to The Wisdom Track Podcast #12.
This episode, titled “Better Loving for Heterosexual Men”, focuses on Dr. Abramowitz’s groundbreaking book, Sexed: Hardwired by Nature, Evolving by Choice, which examines the impact of heterosexual male sexuality on a man’s life.
Breaking the Cycle: The Disappeared Conversation
Dr. Abramowitz created Sexed because of a long-standing suspicion, confirmed by his 14-year involvement with the men’s consciousness movement, that there was a “Disappeared conversation around heterosexual male sexuality”. This silence deeply affects a man’s sense of self-agency and overall well-being as men.
His unique background informs his work: his late father was a gynaecologist and sex therapist, and Paul himself has studied both eastern and western sexology.
The Core Mandate: Transforming Your Entire Reality
The central thesis of Sexed is a powerful call to action: men must “Develop personal methods of enquiry into greater self-understanding, meaningful sex and conscious relating”.
The results of this personal exploration are transformative. Dr. Abramowitz proposes that when men are able to fundamentally “change the way we understand, perceive and embrace our sexuality as men our entire reality changes”.
The Solution: Deep Transformational Sex Therapy
Dr. Abramowitz operates a therapy space for couples and individuals, specializing in matters of sex and intimacy. He uses his own detailed model of Deep Transformational Sex Therapy, which is fully articulated within the pages of Sexed.
This conversation offers vital guidance for every man seeking to move beyond outdated norms and cultivate a life defined by conscious relating and profound self-mastery.
Comments
“I found this podcast super interesting as one rarely hears much about male sexuality (besides sensational articles in the Cosmo and GQ magazine).
And what I liked most was that you have proudly written a book about “heterosexual” male sexuality as it is not that PC these days to say that you are a heterosexual male because you don’t want to offend women and same sex relations (or trans) etc etc!
Thanks for your instrumental part in bringing heterosexual male sexuality out of the forgotten shadows and proudly into the light it deserves. I am looking forward to other podcasts and articles about your book. Well done!”
👏👏🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Dr Marelize Swart, Psychologist & AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (Diplomate)
“Well done Paul. Having listened to the podcast and gaining some insight into the matter on hand has opened a dialogue with my younger self as well as my partner on his experience of growing up with a somewhat overloaded amount of hormones.
What I grew up with and ‘accepted’ from the opposite sex, is definitely no longer acceptable in the world we live in today. A considerable amount of psychological harm was caused.
Interesting that most of these men in my age group (middle aged and upwards) still remain ‘stuck’ in their hormone based adolescent reactive behaviour and continue to circulate disrespectable comments, sexist jokes etc amongst themselves, while postmenopausal women grow stronger in their own power and any hurt that they may still have turns to pity for those still ‘stuck’. Sad, as we ‘miss’ each other….
So definitely time to ‘talk’.”
Bridget
“Superb sharing Paul!!
Such a beautiful blend of intellectualizing the subject of being hetero normative (and male) …with how to ‘live’ and ‘embody’ a new/ more woke- to- self and conscious way of inhabiting maleness..
I particularly liked the invitation to curiosity rather than adversity …and I believe that a follow on conversation would be most powerful if had with a woman in the field of sexology..
This conversation opener that you offer feels way overdue, and yet , also way ahead of this moment ‘right now’ .BUT, as a firm believer in the appropriate conversations arriving in perfect timing , I feel that there is something quite pivotal in the timing of right now !! There is so much Saturation …especially after the pandemic porn binge …and a boring narrative around sex… a perfect time to talk !!
It is invaluable guidance you offer for all couples work and I experience this, with so much gratitude, first hand ,in my practice – and daily!
Bringing all of the info you share so beautifully into practical ways of upskilling behaviours really does make it feel as if you have birthed a masterpiece!”
Dr Andrea Phillips – Seidel
