Waking up from a 50-year relationship with his active libido, British author, Kingsley Amis, exclaimed, it’s “like being chained to a madman” !
Men have been thinking about that since the days of Socrates and that’s because biology dictates not only our sexual reality, but our entire reality–sexually.
SEXED offers a new vision for men and sex, intimacy, biology, connection and selfhood. Its a book for men and a book for women who love them – and a book for therapists and coaches who integrate sex and intimacy into their transformative work.
Hello and welcome to the SEXED website!
Why SEXED? Because sex bleeds into who we become as men.
Not unlike most of us who have noticed the hardwiring in ourselves and looked around for answers to explain it, I have looked for coherent messages and books to confirm my own experience of that feeling of “hardwired for sex”.
About the Author
Paul Neil Abramowitz
Having followed a rather circuitous route into his formal training in Human Sexuality by studies in both Eastern (Totality Therapy) and Western traditions (Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality), Paul is a long-time student of yoga and meditation, a painter, sculptor, and singer-songwriter who has dedicated most of his adult life to exploring creative avenues of expression and practice that lead to a fuller understanding of the lived human experience.
SEXED offers heterosexual men the opportunity to loosen themselves from the chained up nature of sex at any age. Even if men before you have not managed to do so - you can begin to discover a new level of self mastery with sex included.
A word from our readers
A profound and liberating exploration of masculine sexuality. It clearly takes someone with courageous and penetrating vision to peer through the veil. I am sure that the men (and the women in their lives) who read this book - a profound and compassionate guide and companion, challenging primer and practical workbook for sexual exploration - will share my deepest gratitude that it has been written.
Dr Andrea Phillips
SEXED is a rare and remarkable, clear and comprehensive; compassion-based, insightful body of work, offering an understanding of the richly layered experience of what it is to be male and to experience male sexuality.
As you strap yourself in on your personal journey of extraordinary sex, be prepared to take off into the unknown, peeling off layers you never knew existed… Dr Abramowitz's brilliance lies in his ability to allow you to go on a deep dive and explore the invisible, gently. Sexed will make the seemingly impossible possible.
An indepth masterpiece… As a daughter, wife and mother this gift allows me a richer understanding and compassion in my relationships with the men in my life.
In my opinion, Paul’s book should be prescribed reading not only for boys/men of whatsoever age … but also for women who attempt to love these boys/men of whatsoever age and to this end support the man in their life who is seeking greater self-knowledge.
Dr Georg Fodor
Consultant Psychiatrist and Neurologist, Psychoanalyst
If you are unable to find a guide for the exploration of the heterosexual man, this book opens a gate to name and grasp, to explore and pace—to experience and map, to understand and start conversations about a most intimately unknown world that actually has always been in and around you.